
Midlifing
Two friends Lee and Simon have serious conversations about silly things, and silly conversations about serious things. Together they dig into the pleasures, absurdities and imperfections of being human.
Midlifing
215: Men talking about how they were feeling (Part 1 of 2)
Lee and Simon bring on their first ever (official) guest – Matthew Onarheim-Smith – to talk about his experiences of depression.
Apologies for Simon's mic level.
Things covered: Introducing Matthew Onarheim-Smith, Quick by Shona McCullagh, annoying songs, driving with Simon, flirting with depression, entering the conversation with a plan of what to discuss, having a relationship with depression, not feeling good and recognising something is wrong, sound trauma in Vienna, tinnitus, stress as a destabiliser, feeling free, the sensation of depression, thought loops and identifying with those thoughts, Uroskolen (the angst school), courage in discussing depression, shame and stigma, gender and shame, Lee making ginger-bread and going to bed early, Trevor Noah, ADHD and being raised by women, Bette Midler and talking about me, resistance to discussing depression, suicidal ideation, NZ men, dance as a place inhabited mostly by women, men bonding by sharing an activity, showing weaknesses and flaws, dancing for Shona Dunlop-McTavish (and the fertility dance), the feeling of talking about depression.
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Related links (and necessary corrections):
- coping with depression: https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/tips-and-support/cope-with-depression/
- Self-care for depression: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/depression/self-care/
- Mental Health Foundation: https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/a-z-topics/depression
- men and depression: https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/a-z-topics/men-and-mental-health
- Matthew's "Moving Dad" YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/@amovingdad1310
- Matthew's "Moving Dad" Instagram channel: https://www.instagram.com/amovingdad
- Uroskolen https://www.uroskolen.no/
Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.
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