Midlifing
Two friends Lee and Simon have serious conversations about silly things, and silly conversations about serious things. Together they dig into the pleasures, absurdities and imperfections of being human.
Midlifing
306: Saying Yes Is Not Then a Marriage
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Simon's secondhand iPhone and Lee's flirtation with a folding one get things going, but the episode turns on a last-minute invitation to Lisbon Fashion Week that Lee almost turned down over pizza. Saying yes, he points out, isn't a marriage, because you can always leave. That leads them to ask who actually gets to be that open: the socially anxious, parents on pick-up duty, anyone whose evening isn't already their own.
Mentioned
- iPhone 13 Pro – the secondhand phone the episode is recorded on; the discovery that its speakers sit at the top opens the conversation
- The Luddites – 19th-century textile workers who smashed machinery; prompted by the question of when an early adopter turns Luddite, followed by a brief and uncertain detour into cotton presses and weaving
- Apple Watch and iPad – recalled as examples of early adoption, including an iPad snatched by a passing cyclist
- iPhone X – the last model bought new on release, before a switch to secondhand phones over the cost of keeping up and the environmental impact of rare earth materials
- Kodak – shorthand for a point-and-shoot approach to cameras: interested in images, not in how they're made
- iPhone Duo – a phone that unfolds into a screen for watching television on trains and planes; being considered, but only after a couple of months of reviews
- Leaning Tower of Pisa – punchline to "leaning is not the same as falling"
- ChatGPT virtual try-on – feature for trying on clothes digitally; set as homework for the coming week
- Google wardrobe – Google's equivalent clothes try-on service; reportedly looks like a face pasted onto a model's body
- Lisbon Fashion Week – the event a last-minute invitation led to, which became an example of being open to saying yes
- Aperol spritz – being drunk at the pizzeria when the invitation arrived (transcript reads "April spritz")
- Ammo – a local Lisbon pizzeria run by Luciano from Naples, serving 24-hour sourdough pizza
- Rick Owens – American fashion designer known for dark, avant-garde clothing; a pair of his shorts, bought in a charity shop, was worn to the fashion event
- Michèle Lamy – octogenarian fashion icon and Rick Owens's wife and collaborator
- Six degrees of separation – used to describe following the interesting people who turn up in a well-connected friend's wake
- Shayo by Nnamdi – a new Nigerian slow-fashion label just launched in Lisbon, working with young Nigerian designers; met outside the event, leading to some accidental networking
- Waiter press – kettlebell exercise, held overhead like a waiter's tray, recommended for the newly delivered 16 kg kettlebell
Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.
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