Midlifing

306: Saying Yes Is Not Then a Marriage

• Midlifing • Episode 306

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Simon's secondhand iPhone and Lee's flirtation with a folding one get things going, but the episode turns on a last-minute invitation to Lisbon Fashion Week that Lee almost turned down over pizza. Saying yes, he points out, isn't a marriage, because you can always leave. That leads them to ask who actually gets to be that open: the socially anxious, parents on pick-up duty, anyone whose evening isn't already their own.

Mentioned

  • iPhone 13 Pro – the secondhand phone the episode is recorded on; the discovery that its speakers sit at the top opens the conversation
  • The Luddites – 19th-century textile workers who smashed machinery; prompted by the question of when an early adopter turns Luddite, followed by a brief and uncertain detour into cotton presses and weaving
  • Apple Watch and iPad – recalled as examples of early adoption, including an iPad snatched by a passing cyclist
  • iPhone X – the last model bought new on release, before a switch to secondhand phones over the cost of keeping up and the environmental impact of rare earth materials
  • Kodak – shorthand for a point-and-shoot approach to cameras: interested in images, not in how they're made
  • iPhone Duo – a phone that unfolds into a screen for watching television on trains and planes; being considered, but only after a couple of months of reviews
  • Leaning Tower of Pisa – punchline to "leaning is not the same as falling"
  • ChatGPT virtual try-on – feature for trying on clothes digitally; set as homework for the coming week
  • Google wardrobe – Google's equivalent clothes try-on service; reportedly looks like a face pasted onto a model's body
  • Lisbon Fashion Week – the event a last-minute invitation led to, which became an example of being open to saying yes
  • Aperol spritz – being drunk at the pizzeria when the invitation arrived (transcript reads "April spritz")
  • Ammo – a local Lisbon pizzeria run by Luciano from Naples, serving 24-hour sourdough pizza
  • Rick Owens – American fashion designer known for dark, avant-garde clothing; a pair of his shorts, bought in a charity shop, was worn to the fashion event
  • Michèle Lamy – octogenarian fashion icon and Rick Owens's wife and collaborator
  • Six degrees of separation – used to describe following the interesting people who turn up in a well-connected friend's wake
  • Shayo by Nnamdi – a new Nigerian slow-fashion label just launched in Lisbon, working with young Nigerian designers; met outside the event, leading to some accidental networking
  • Waiter press – kettlebell exercise, held overhead like a waiter's tray, recommended for the newly delivered 16 kg kettlebell

Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.

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